Some of my readers may remember that I participated in a “free communication weekend” offered by eHarmony, the dating web site, over Memorial Day weekend. Periodically since, I’ve received emails from them offering me a discount on a paid membership, which I always ignored. Until the one I got late last week which offered three months for the price of one, and I figured, what the heck?
Oh, and I am also scheduled to attend a speed dating event in two weeks.
Now that I’m an actual paying customer on EH, I get to see photos of the men I’m supposedly a match for. This has been eye-opening to say the least. According to EH, due to my age (45), I’m going to be considered a match for men ranging in age from 41 to 60. Sixty!! I still do a double take when I see matches for men in their 50’s, which is only a few years older. It’s definitely a mental thing. But then again, some of the photos underline their age, and make me think of my dad. And not in a good way. And if there are no photos, it’s a definite turn-off, which I now understand. During my Memorial Day stint I chose not to share my photo, but this time I put three up that anyone can see. Two are head shots, and here is the other:
I like that one because it show my basic body type, which I know is important to a lot of men, it shows me with my children, but not their faces, and they can see that my children are young without having it bashed in their face.
SInce Monday night, when I signed up, I have heard from exactly zero men this time around.
I initiated communication with one man earlier today, and am waiting to see if he responds.
I am really not sure I’m ready for all this.
I’m almost 45 too and I have to admit 60 would creep me out more than a bit. Let us know how it goes — one of my colleagues is currently pretty serious with a man she met on Eharmony, and they’re both in their 40’s.
I think that is a gorgeous picture and perfectly chosen. No sense wasting time with anyone who doesn’t want kids!
I’m 46 and my ex-husband is now 57 which I find quite bizarre.