Facebook Fearsome

Who out there is on Facebook? I resisted for awhile, but once I succumbed I found:

Facebook is so much fun!

Facebook is addictive!

Facebook has contributed to the plot of at least two TV shows I watch regularly (Ugly Betty and Trust Me). It’s a real pop culture phenomenon, and I don’t see it going away anytime soon.

I haven’t specifically checked lately, but I’m up to about 85 friends. These friends traverse almost all chapters of my life: high school, college, past co-workers, fellow adoptive parents, current co-workers, a couple blogging buddies, my step-mother, and more than a few ex-boyfriends (including Gary, my speed dating guy, who I feel better than ever about not pursuing things further – I really should de-friend him, but what can I say, I’m a voyeur).  It can be very strange to have people who knew you “when” mingling amongst those who know you now. If you’re anything like me, you’ve changed lots and present different sides of yourself to different people, so arguably some of these people know very different “you’s!” I have set up “groups” of friends, but have yet to restrict access to any photos or posts to only certain groups, although I set the groups up with that in mind. I know some “friends” better than others, and especially regarding high school friends, some of them I barely knew even then. But I’m Facebook friends with them now as an avenue to finding folks I did know, should they join in the future.

When I first joined I did what I’m sure most folks do, and searched for those people you’ve often thought of over the years but had lost touch with. I found my erstwhile prom date that way, and have enjoyed the re-established connection. I searched for my ex-husband, out of morbid curiosity, but he wasn’t on. I searched his sisters (one of whom I’m still close to), and his brother-in-laws, one of whom is a very minor celebrity (TV/movie writer). I found the BIL, but I didn’t friend him.

For some reason I searched the sister I like again on Friday, and she’s now on Facebook. I debated about friending her, all sorts of scenarios running in my mind. While I don’t post anything uber private on Facebook, I’m also not sure I want my ex-husband knowing any of what I post. Then again, I shouldn’t be so hung up on myself as to think everyone is so interested in what I have to say that she would run off and tell him any of what I might post.

In the end I decided to friend her. She accepted.

I also searched the ex again, and he’s now there too. He is not (yet) friends with his sister. The ex and I are connected on LinkedIn, but I see that as a professional networking site, where Facebook is personal. I’m OK with using him for job opportunities (and vice versa), but personal…..not so much. I have to assume he’s looked for me too, and seen that I’m there, but has elected not to friend me, probably for many of the same reasons I have. Once we have a common friend, that may get a little stickier.

Don’t you love how I can find things to worry about?


2 responses to “Facebook Fearsome

  1. lol
    I’m a FB user, when I first found it it was addictive as well. It’s been awhile since then, and I’ve long cooled off on the subject. I actually don’t believe I have any ex’s of any sort on it though. That is to say, no ex-b/f’s, and no exFWB. I guess there’s a reason for it.
    Have fun with it!

  2. Well, you remember my comment about the internet imploding. I actually looked for my ex as well. Had he been on I was going to take my page down. He happened to find my blog already. (recently)
    I’m enjoying finding people. Some people I’d as soon hadn’t found me but for the most part I’m glad to reconnect, particularly with a lot of the folks from college. And my mom’s best friend from college – it was good timing for Mom and Harriet to get together again.

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