Last year at Christmas I was disheartened at the multitude of gifts my children received, both from me and others, that have never been used. We talked about taking a trip next year (now this year!), and keeping the gift count low. At their ages, I knew I would have to revisit this, since Christmas is way more about what you get to unwrap than any meaning it might or should have.
So this summer I brought it up again, and they were both enthusiastic about a trip, “as long as it’s someplace warm.”
I belong to an online community of Disney enthusiasts, and as it turned out, a full weekend of events was planned in Florida for Dec 10-13. I decided that was close enough to Christmas, and booked a trip. I asked my mother if she would like to come with us (partly to act as babysitter) and she enthusiastically accepted. Traveling with my mother has not always worked out for me in the past, but this was short enough,, and the kids would be around, so I figured we’d get through it.
I held off on telling the kids until Thanksgiving! Just two weeks notice! I said, “Hey, we’re going to Disney World for Christmas!” and there was much cheering. Then I said, “And Mimi is meeting us there!” Silence. Then, “Oh.” and “Does she have to come?” Not good. Unfortunately, things went downhill from there. A summary, in the form of an instant message chat with a friend (so I don’t have to retype everything!):
Me… so, thursday night, we get to the resort, and grab some dinner
Me… we basically ate ice cream for dinner (yummy!)
Me… then we were headed to dhs
Me… i said, “shall we walk, or take transportation?”
Me… everyone said they didn’t care
Me… so i said, “well, i just ate a huge ice cream, let’s walk”
Me… and everyone (including my kids) started whining
Me… soooo typical of my mother – she expects you to read her mind
Me… when i ask what you want to do, if you have a preference, i expect you to SAY SOMETHING
Me… otherwise, don’t get mad at me when i make a decision
Me… ok, so that irritated me, but it was NOTHING
Me… friday morning i had a seminar that got out about 12:30
Me… i met up with my mom and the kids in epcot around 1
Me… i was STARVING
Me… i showed up and said so
Me… my mom says “we had a big breakfast.”
Me… let me ask you – if someone said that to you, what would you think?
Friend that they wouldn’t need lunch
Friend maybe a small snack a little later
Friend so go ahead and get yourself something
Me… yeah, that’s what i thought too
Me… so, i say, “let’s go to morocco”
Me… and we head that way
Me… and my mom starts in with her passive aggressive talk about how she’s afraid of morocco
Me… yes, afraid of a “country” in EPOCT!
Me… we get there and she starts throwing a fit how i never asked what SHE wanted to do
Friend you’re like, all I want is something to EAT!
Me… so i say, “fine, what would you like to do?”
Me… “not eat here” she says
Me… i say, “you said you had a big breakfast”
Me… “no, your CHILDREN ate a big breakfast – i just had fruit”
Friend oh, okay but that’s NOT what you said!
Me… which i reminded her!
Me… she has bad feet
Me… so i suggested she find a table and sit down
Me… later, she grumbled that she was assigned as the “table holder”
Me… i said – i would have held the table and you could have stood in line! i thought you’d rather sit!
Me… good lord, i can’t do ANYTHING right!
Me… at lunch she decided she’d had enough and was going to head back to the room
Me… the tension immediately lifted when she left
Me… the girls (esp krystal) filled me in on her meanness while i’d been away “please don’t leave us again”
Me… unfortunately, she took the girls’ park tickets with her, so we couldn’t get any more fast passes
Friend oh no
Me… which, when she heard that later on, accused me of blaming her for not letting the kids go on any rides
Me… which i wasn’t! it was just a fact!
Me… we found plenty to do
Me… friday night i went out drinking with my geek buddies
Friend geek buddies
Me… saturday we had a fairly decent day at AK
Me… i had made reservations for lunch at tusker house, which was her request
Me… and when i reminded her of that she said “i didn’t want lunch, i wanted dinner!”
Me… again, i can do nothing right!!!
Me… Saturday night i went out to the private party at toy story mania
Me… didn’t get home till 1 am
Me… ex-freaking-zausted on sunday
Me… we did rope drop at MK on sunday
Me… but as we were getting ready to leave in the room, my mom got both girls crying
Friend because they were going to miss her soo much?
Me… she had a fit over some yogurt that belle had spilled on a chair and she had sat in, and had to get her pants all wet to wash off
Me… she really lost it
Friend oh boy
Me… and krystal wrote a note to me that said “i am a terrible child. i hate myself”
Me… because of how my mother had been treating her
Friend i’m sorry!
Me… she’s awful
Me… i don’t want to see her for xmas
Friend how? why?
Friend like how did you manage to grow up?
Me… i don’t know!
Me… she’s always admitted she liked us (my sister and me) more as we got older
Me… and i guess i’m the same way – i like kids better than babies or toddlers
Me… and she’s always been passive aggressive and expecting the mind reading thing
Me… but now she’s doing it to my kids – making up rules as she goes along and coming down on them for the littlest things!
Me… that’s my job!
Me… i took the girls on this trip to make memories
Me… they didn’t come away with the kind of memories i had in mind…..